How to Help an Elderly Loved One Learn About Assisted Living

Assisted Living Mobile AL

Assisted Living Mobile AL

Gina was having the most difficult time convincing her mother to look into assisted living. She had been supporting her mother for more than a year. They had been close most of Gina’s life and she lived in the same town. When her mother had a major medical emergency and spent more than two weeks in the hospital, Gina never thought twice about being there for her.

Assisted Living

They had heard about other types of elder care, but with Gina’s schedule and availability, it seemed to make sense that she support her. Over time, though, the challenges increased. The burdens on her time also changed. Gina was finding herself running ragged, getting less and less sleep, feeling worn down as she approached 50, and ready for other options.

She knew something had to change. She tried talking to her mother about assisted living, but no matter what she did, and even though her mother was seemingly more open to hearing about assisted living, she never agreed to commit.

Gina got the sense that her mother was simply pacifying her. As her time constraints mounted, so did the stress she felt every day. It reached a point where Gina started snapping at her mother for things she had no business getting upset about. Then her mother was getting angry right back at her.

She Didn’t Know What To Do

The last thing she wanted was to leave her mother alone for too long. But what was she to do? Her mother needed help mostly in the evenings and during the overnight hours. Gina worried that her mother would try to use the bathroom without help and could slip and fall.

She just couldn’t keep going at this pace. Not for much longer. Thankfully, she stumbled across an option and began investigating. Within a couple of weeks, Gina talked to her mother about respite care at assisted living.

“Mom,” Gina said one afternoon while they sat at the kitchen table, having finished all of the chores they needed to take care of together. “You can spend the nights at this local assisted living facility. I could pick you up in the morning. You can come back here and spend the day. It solves both of our problems.”

As soon as Gina said the word “problems” she regretted it, but her mother understood what she was talking about. Her mother knew how much stress her daughter was under just looking after her, but she was also afraid. She was afraid of being alone. She was afraid of change. She was afraid of the unknown.

Respite Care

Gina’s mother agreed to give it a try. They found a local assisted living facility that had availability for those overnight stays. Gina dropped her mother off in the late afternoon or early evening hours, when she had the time after work, and her mother would spend time there, getting to meet some of the residents, enjoying some good movies and other entertainment, taking part in some evening activities, and then sleeping in a room surrounded by experienced staff members able and willing to help if she needed support.

Gina would pick her mother up in the morning, bring her home, and they did this routine for several weeks when Gina’s mother finally said she was ready to make a full-time commitment to this facility.

If you or an aging loved one are considering a move to Assisted Living in Mobile, AL, contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017.

About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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