When You and Your Mom Are Snapping at Each Other More, Respite Support at Assisted Living Could Be the Answer You BOTH Need

You were never going to turn your back on your elderly mother. After your father passed away, or perhaps she’s been living alone for more years than you can remember, but you always determined that you would be there for her. Living in the same town has made it easy, but being a family caregiver is stressful.

Most people have no idea just how stressful it can and often becomes (being a family caregiver) until they do that type of work firsthand. They think it is just something they add to their day, perhaps once or twice a week to stop over their elderly mother’s house, for example, to check in on her, bring her some groceries, maybe make a quick trip to the pharmacy, and so forth.

The reality is much different. For most people, it starts out once in a while, but eventually increases and, once it increases, it usually does so rapidly. What you thought would be once a week suddenly becomes four times a week, maybe multiple times a day, or even every day of the week.

On top of all that, you often worry more and more about your mother’s safety, her ability to clean the house, go outside and do things she wants, and since you are sacrificing so much for her, you think it is reasonable to request that she take it easy, rest, and avoid putting herself in potentially harmful situations.

Yet, she wants to live life on her terms. Quality of life still matters to her, as it should. So, what’s the solution? When you two begin snapping at one another, when the tension is building in your relationship, it’s high time to discuss the prospect of assisted living.

What if your mother has already dismissed assisted living as an option?

Assisted Living Fairhope, AL: Respite Support at Assisted Living

The key question to ask yourself is whether or not she understands what it is, what it offers, and what options are available. Most people have misconceptions about what assisted living is. They assume it’s a permanent or long-term solution to what they might feel is a short-term problem.

Maybe your mother is getting stronger. Perhaps she had a medical emergency and is in recovery still. That doesn’t stop the tension building in your relationship with her.

Did you know that assisted living may offer respite services? That means your mother might be able to go to an assisted living facility in the area for a short time, maybe even for just a few days a week. Some assisted living communities might even offer overnight stay options for some seniors.

That could be exactly what both of you need right now. Not a full-time, long-term commitment, but something that gives you both a much-needed break, not just from the rigors of daily life that have taken over everything, but from each other.

Contact a quality assisted living facility nearby and find out what respite options they offer to seniors in their community.

If you or an aging loved one are considering a move to an Assisted Living facility near Fairhope, AL, contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017.

About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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