What To Do If Your Senior Doesn’t Want to Talk About Assisted Living

Elder Care: Assisted Living Saraland AL

Elder Care: Assisted Living Saraland AL

Elder care is a great option for aging men and women who might struggle with Activities of Daily Living (ADLs). Some of these ADLs might include bathing, toileting, getting out of bed, preparing meals, or even going grocery shopping. It can also include having difficulty getting to doctors’ appointments, but for that, there may be other assistance available.

There are different types of elder care, but assisted living happens to be one of the best for many good reasons. Unfortunately, as people get older they turn to family first. If they don’t have family, they may lean on friends and the family of their friends to help from time to time.

Almost always, though, a small amount of help for one or two times becomes three or four, which then becomes five or 10 and on and on it goes. The older a person is, the more likely they will need help, especially if they are facing health issues, limited mobility, or other challenges that will only grow more significant as time marches on.

What if They Don’t Want to Hear About Assisted Living?

Even though assisted living is arguably one of the best elder care options available to aging men and women, especially those who need assistance on a regular basis, some people don’t know enough about it. They have certain built-in fears and anxieties, especially when it comes to change.

Change is often considered inevitable, but when a person is facing the prospect of changing their home environment, changing the things they do, or even accepting the limitations their body and health is placing on them, they shut down. They don’t want to talk about it. They would rather create a delusion for themselves that they can handle this, that with just a little bit of support from family and friends, they can do just fine in their own home.

You may feel like you’re beating your head against the proverbial wall, but don’t give up. You certainly need to respect their autonomy and independence and not force the issue upon them, but there are a few different ways you can help an aging parent begin to realize the benefits elder care, especially assisted living, offers.

Take Them on a Tour

Most assisted living facilities offer tours. Many of them are now in person once again, having gone virtual during the pandemic. A tour is a wonderful opportunity for them to see the facility, get a glimpse of what the rooms look like, and perhaps meet some of the other residents who may be just like them.

Read About it Online

When you find information online, it can offer a great deal of insight into what daily living and overnight stays would be like at the facility. Encourage the senior to read this information online or, if the facility in the area has a brochure, pick it up for them. If they don’t want to read it, just be patient.

Talk About Short-Term Stays

Most people don’t realize that assisted living offers respite care options. These are short-term stays that could be for a few days a week, a week or two at a time, or even overnight. Taking advantage of respite options may help that aging parent realize the value of elder care.

If you or an aging loved one are considering a move to Assisted Living in Saraland, AL, contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017.

About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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