Yes, You DO Care About Mom by Suggesting Assisted Living

Some people can feel as though they don’t care or will be accused of that for simply suggesting assisted living to an aging parent or other loved one. This may be one of many reasons people avoid the topic of assisted living, at least until it can no longer be avoided. 

The plain and simple truth is this: when you suggest assisted living to an aging parent, like your mother, it means you actually do care about her. That’s because you understand the benefits and values assisted living can offer. 


Is it better to let somebody struggle or give them hope?

Assisted Living in Fairhope, AL: Suggesting Assisted Living

You might not live in the same state as your mother. Or, perhaps you live right down the road and stop by every day. In either case, do you know she’s struggling? Do you notice the difficulty she has just getting up from a chair when you visit? 

You hear her words, her doubts, her fears, or even her complaining about the things she can no longer do and wish you could do more to help her? 

When loved ones struggle, all we want to do is step in and provide assistance. We want to help them, right? That is precisely what assisted living offers: assistance. 


Why should she choose assisted living? 

We need to remember that it’s not our choice, but hers (or that elderly person’s). We can’t force an aging parent, spouse, sibling, or anyone else we love to choose something they don’t want to. 

However, the more people learn about assisted living and the opportunities, safety, and comfort it can provide, the more likely they’ll choose it for themselves. 


So why would your mother choose assisted living? 

It will be a place she can surround herself with friends. She may not know anyone at a specific assisted living facility right now, but within a matter of hours or days when she moves in, she will suddenly have friends all around her. 

That’s what many families discover when a loved one goes into an assisted living community. They call to check in, but don’t get an answer. When that aging parent or other loved one finally calls the back, they discover they have been out all day, enjoying company, playing games, having conversations, and enjoying a wonderful time. 

Many communities also provide activities like arts and crafts, music, and other programs that can be a great deal of fun. Just because a person is in their 70s, 80s, or 90s doesn’t mean they are sitting around waiting for life to be over. 

They want to live it to the fullest and that is precisely what assisted living offers. So, you see, suggesting assisted living to your elderly mother isn’t a bad thing. In fact, it could be the best thing. 


If you or an aging loved one are considering Assisted Living near Fairhope, AL, contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017. 

About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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