What Are Some Questions Your Mom Might Ask About Assisted Living?

Questions are often the most effective way people have to gain information. Your mother might be asking questions about assisted living, not necessarily to learn more about it, per se, but to try and shut down the conversation altogether. 

It’s important not to get upset with any senior who may seem reluctant to discuss assisted living openly and honestly. Many people have misconceptions about this level of care. 

In fact, your mother might assume that when you talk about assisted living, you are referring to another type of facility care, most notably direct medical care. It is an unfortunate side effect that assisted living has been lumped together with those alternatives, but assisted living truly is a place to live a high quality of life during one’s Golden Years. 

Below are a few questions your mother might ask that, if you anticipate them ahead of time, you could get ahead of them and be prepared to answer them in a way that helps to realize this is truly a great option to consider for her future. 


Are you just looking for me to stop burdening you?

Assisted Living Theodore, AL: Questions About Assisted Living

Guilt. It is one of the most powerful and effective ways people have used to get loved ones to continue supporting them. You might be your mother’s primary caregiver at the moment, but it’s taking a toll on your life. 

She may try to guilt you into continuing supporting her. If she asks this question, you can quickly turn it around and start talking about all of the activities she could participate in that the facility offers, but then focus the conversation on the things she no longer does (that you know she wished she could). 


Isn’t that for people waiting for the end of their life? 

This is a common misconception, but completely unfounded. In fact, at a quality assisted living community, seniors are living life to the fullest. 

Many residents discover a new lease on life as a result of choosing assisted living for their future. They get excited about each day, the activities they can participate in, and even spending more quality time with great friends. 

Assisted living is not about the end of life, but rather maximizing quality of it during the Golden Years. 


How could I possibly afford it? 

When you calculate in the cost of their current home, rent or mortgage, property taxes, utilities, food, your commuting times to support them, transportation, and so on, you begin to realize that assisted living is all-inclusive and can be quite affordable. 

The more you anticipate questions your mother might have about assisted living when you bring up the topic, the more likely you are to help convince her to at least consider this option for her future. 


If you or an aging loved one are considering Assisted Living near Theodore, AL, contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017. 

About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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