Avoid Pushing Mom About Assisted Living – Let Her Decide It’s Best for Her

Assisted Living in Theodore AL

You know your mother would do well at assisted living. In fact, you are completely convinced this would be the best thing for her. When you bring up the topic with her, though, she is resistant. It’sAssisted-Living-in-Theodore-AL causing a lot of frustration for you and you lay awake at night stressed, worried about her safety, whether or not she fell and needs help, and wondering why she is so resistant to the idea.

Assisted living is a great choice.

Most seniors who ultimately decide to move into an assisted living community are happy with their decision. It takes a while, though, for some to reach that decision.

It’s never easy letting go of things that are familiar, comfortable, especially if they’ve lived in the same place for many, many years. Your mother may very well be better suited for assisted-living, but it has to be her decision. You cannot force it upon her.

The waiting is the hardest part.

You don’t want to wait. Every day she procrastinates this decision, every day she argues with you and fights your recommendations is one more day where she can become injured in a fall, be unable to reach the phone to call for help, or be put in some other compromising situation.

You just want what’s best for her. If you force her to decide on something as important as this, you will likely impact your relationship with her and, even if she ultimately decides to move into one of these facilities, she will probably go into it with a negative mindset. Everything she sees, does, or observes will be viewed through a tentative and tainted perspective.

There is something you can do to help.

You can help your mother along with this very important decision; you can gather as much information as you can about assisted living, especially a facility or couple of prospective facilities you think she might be interested in. Find out if she has friends living in one of these facilities right now.

Make an appointment, take a tour, and meet with an administrator. Learn about the dining facilities, the amenities, the activities that may take place on a daily or weekly basis, and the support staff members will offer. Get an idea about each room, whether your mother could share a room to save money or have her own.

The more information you have about assisted living, the easier it will be for her to ultimately realize what you already know: this is the best decision for her right now.

If you or an aging loved one are considering Assisted Living in Theodore, AL, contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017.


About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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