3 Clues Your Parent Is Worried About Her Safety and Already Wondering If Assisted Living Would Be Better

December 4, 2018 by ·

That 80-year-old parent of yours may appear stubborn at times, and though he or she isn’t yet willing to listen to you about assisted living, and maybe you’ve dropped the subject a long time ago, they might be giving off clues that they’re actually willing to once again hear you out on this subject.

Assisted Living in Theodore AL: Clues That a Loved One is Worried About Safety

Assisted Living in Theodore AL: Clues That a Loved One is Worried About Safety

Below are three potential clues that some aging men and women give off when they are struggling at home. Even though they might have adamantly refused to even hear anything about assisted living in the past, these clues could give you new insight and a new hope that this is something they’re finally coming around to accept.

Potential Clue #1: They mention their fear.

Maybe it’s your 83-year-old mother who is now talking about fear. She’s afraid of falling. She’s afraid of being alone for the rest of her life. She’s afraid at night because what happens if she slips getting out of bed to go to the bathroom and she simply can’t reach the phone? What is she going to do?

Having that kind of fear can either mean she’s already now (finally) thinking about assisted living or has other hopes in mind.

Potential Clue #2: They talk more often about the burden of their home.

Whether your elderly parent is living in a house, condo, townhome, or even an apartment, taking care of it, keeping it clean, replacing light bulbs, and so on can become overwhelming with age. The older a person is, the more physical limitations they face.

As a result, they will likely reach a point in time when keeping up with the general maintenance and cleanliness of the house is too much. It’s at that time when assisted living could become appealing rather than seen as an option they don’t want to consider.

Potential Clue #3: They reminisce about friends and wish they could see them more often.

When a person reaches a certain age and begins struggling with their vision, hearing, mobility, reaction time, and so on, they may lose the ability to drive or even get around safely on the transit bus system, subways, or even via taxicabs. If their friends can’t visit them and have also lost the ability to get around safely on their own, they may talk longingly about those missed opportunities.

While their friends may not be at a particular assisted living facility, they might know quite a few people if they’ve lived in the same town or city or region for a long time.

Assisted living communities can provide a wealth of benefits to aging seniors and, even though an elderly man or woman may have discounted the idea some time ago, they might be giving off clues that they’re ready to once again talk about it, although they may be reticent to bring it up directly for one reason or another.

If you or an aging loved one are considering assisted living in Theodore, AL, contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017.

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About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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