‘Knowing’ the Topic of Assisted Living Is Going to Be Met with Anger, What Can You Do When You Feel Out of Options?

It’s incredibly easy to ‘know’ something. A parent ‘knows’ that her child has done something wrong, even if she doesn’t have all the evidence just yet. For some families, knowing a fact or having a strong belief in something can make it difficult moving forward. For example, there are plenty of families across the United States that ‘know’ their aging mother or father would be better suited for assisted living, but that bringing this topic up is only going to be met with anger.

How do you know this is going to be met with anger?

Assisted Living Daphne, AL: Options When Talking About Assisted Living

That’s one of the most important questions we must ask ourselves. What is it that would give us this incorrect notion or assumption that just because we believe our mother or father -in their 70s or 80s- is going to react a certain way toward a specific topic that that’s exactly how it’s going to play out?

You don’t know until you talk about it.

The fundamental aspect of this article is that many people make assumptions about how their aging parents, grandparents, a spouse, or somebody else they care about is going to react to some conversation, which can include assisted living. Yes, most people would prefer to remain at home, if possible, but as people age, as their friends move or pass away, as the loneliness and isolation become more prevalent, those opinions can change.

There are numerous incredible benefits of assisted living.

Some of the benefits assisted living offers include companionship. Being surrounded by peers one’s own age can have tremendous emotional benefits. The longer that aging senior feels completely isolated, cut off, or alone, dependent on family and possibly a few friends in the area to stop by or just call so they can have a conversation, the more challenging it will be, emotionally.

A quality assisted living facility is going to provide numerous activities for its residents to take part in. If somebody spends most of their time sitting at home, watching TV, doing a puzzle or two, and otherwise waiting for each day to end, it can be frustrating.

The most important thing is to not make assumptions about how somebody will react to the topic of assisted living. Next, learn as much as you can about this incredible senior care option before bringing it up. It’s easy for somebody to undercut the conversation with snide comments or questions they know their family can’t refute. If you have information, if you understand what a facility does offer, and if you truly know how it has benefited other seniors, that can be the platform upon which to stand while talking about this topic.

Don’t make assumptions; some seniors are already open for a change from their isolated, lonely life when they struggle daily. Assisted living offers that, and much more.


If you or an aging loved one are considering Assisted Living near Daphne, AL,contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017.

About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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