Love Is Sometimes Telling a Person What They Don’t Want to Hear, Such as That Assisted Living Could Be a Wonderful Option

More and more these days it seems as though people define love as either just an emotional reaction or acceptance of every possible viewpoint. In reality, love is sometimes telling people what they need to hear, even though they ‘don’t want to hear it’.

When it comes to the topic of assisted living, there are many seniors who become a bit hostile and even belligerent toward family and friends who discuss this long-term care option.

In most cases, these seniors are already struggling.

Assisted Living Satsuma, AL: Assisted Living Could Be a Wonderful Option

Life is difficult enough, but as we get older and our bodies change, our physical strength declines, and we face increasing health risks and chronic issues, maintaining a safe and healthy environment at home becomes more challenging.

When this happens, one of the best options to consider is assisted living. Not because we can’t live independently any longer, but rather because we want to maintain as high a quality of life as possible.

Some seniors “don’t want to hear it.”

They may walk out of the room, yell at their adult child for even talking about it, or give their spouse the ‘silent treatment’ for days or even weeks after such a topic is brought up.

That’s not an unusual reaction in many cases, especially and mostly when you realize these same seniors often have misconceptions about what assisted living is and offers.

It’s a safe, reasonable option for people of advancing years.

There are seniors at assisted living communities who are completely healthy and strong. They choose this because they understand the benefits it provides.

They no longer have to worry about preparing meals. They don’t have to clean the house any longer. They can be surrounded by peers their own age, even friends they’ve had for decades.

They can go for walks, play games, and enjoy movies and other entertainment, and depending on the assisted living facility may even be able to participate in arts and crafts, music, and other activities they simply couldn’t do living on their own.

A good way to bring up the topic is to discuss activities.

In many cases seniors give up certain things as they get older because of their diminished health, physical ability, or other factors. By talking about some activities as though they could still do them, it becomes easier to talk about assisted living and have them actually listen.

Don’t feel that talking about assisted living is anything outside the realm of love. When you know this senior would benefit from it, talking about assisted living is an act of love.


If you or an aging loved one are considering Assisted Living near Satsuma, AL, contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017. 

About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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