3 Strategies That Might Get Your Mom to (At Least) THINK About Assisted Living

Getting somebody to think about something they aren’t too keen on (whether they understand anything about it or not), can certainly be a difficult situation. When it comes to assisted living, some seniors may have the wrong idea about it. They may want nothing to do with it, in fact, but that doesn’t mean it’s not the best decision for them moving forward.

If you have been trying to get your mother to at least consider assisted living and have been hitting your head against the proverbial wall, then it’s time to look at a few different (and simple) strategies.

Strategy #1: Be honest.

Assisted Living Satsuma, AL: Thinking About Assisted Living

It’s easy to try and sugarcoat things and make them appear like they are the best luxuries a person could ever hope to enjoy, but that is not being honest. Assisted living is one of the best options for aging men and women who may have difficulty keeping up with the general cleaning and maintenance of their house, who live alone, or who have other challenges that make it difficult to stay safe.
Don’t sugarcoat it and make it sound like assisted living is the Ritz Carlton in a tropical destination. Simply be straightforward and honest about what this is and why it is a great option to consider.


Strategy #2: Research assisted living.
If you only know scant little about assisted living yourself, how in the world are you going to share something with your mother? Do your research. Find out about a specific facility in the area, whether they offer a tour, what kind of amenities they provide, the dining options, and so forth.
The more you know about assisted living and the facilities that could be a great fit for your mother, the easier it’s going to be for you sit down and talk to her about it. Keep in mind, she will likely have pointed questions (some of them meant to derail the conversation right off the bat), so the more information you have, the easier you can parry those attacks.


Strategy #3: Talk about your limitations.
If your mother is expecting you to look after her (whether you’ve been doing that for a long time or already or not, let her know there are limits to your time. You simply can’t be there for her every minute she needs or wants you.

She may just assume this is fine with you, that you can handle it, but if she understands you are pushing yourself beyond your limits and getting stressed out as her primary caregiver, she might be far more inclined to be open-minded about assisted living.


If you or an aging loved one are considering Assisted Living near Satsume, AL,contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017.

About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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