No, Mom and Dad Don’t Need to Live Separately When One Requires Assisted Living Support

Witnessing one of your parents beginning to face increasing health issues, diminished mobility, and more struggles just to get through each day is never going to be easy. When one of your parents is still strong, healthy, and mobile, they are often going to be the primary caregiver for the other.

Whether you’ve been able to help or live too far away, you might understand the importance and value moving to a new place could be for them. Maybe you’ve tried to get them to move closer to you, but they have strong roots in their communities; they wish to remain where they are.


Perhaps they’ve discussed assisted living as an option.

Assisted Living Citronelle, AL: Assisted Living for Mom and Dad

If one of your parents is dealing with significant health issues or even a form of dementia, like Alzheimer’s, assisted living can be a valuable asset as their physical, mental, and emotional challenges increase.

Memory care assisted living is a wonderful choice for those dealing with Alzheimer’s or another type of dementia. As the memory loss increases, experienced staff will be able to assist and support your mother or father during this difficult transition.

Choosing assisted living does not mean your parents have to separate and live in different places. Depending on the facility, they should be able to share a room, if they choose this option. However, the cost for both of them to live in an assisted living facility will be significantly higher.

In most cases it won’t be exactly double because of the shared room, but it could be close.


This is why many couples separate when one has to move to assisted living.
Depending on your parents’ financial resources, if they can comfortably manage these expenses, then both your mother and father should be able to move in together to this assisted living facility.

While your one parent will have the direct support of experienced staff throughout the day and even during overnight hours, as needed, the other one can make new friends, explore activities, and experience different things they may have thought were well in their past.

It’s a personal choice that is dependent on one’s financial position in life, but there is no hard and fast rule that just because one parent requires assisted living the other has to say goodbye and remain where they were.

It’s also important to understand that if they decide to separate their living situations, the other spouse can visit as often as he or she wishes, which is going to be essential as they continue to age together.


If you or an aging loved one are considering Assisted Living in Citronelle, AL,contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017.

About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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