How Long Should You Keep Talking to Mom About Assisted Living?

May 10, 2017 by ·
Assisted Living in Daphne, AL: How Long Should You Keep Talking to Mom About Assisted Living?

Assisted Living in Daphne, AL: How Long Should You Keep Talking to Mom About Assisted Living?

Your mother is 76 and has been living alone for quite some time. You’ve been concerned about her physical safety, but also her emotional state of mind. She doesn’t seem to have any friends in the area any longer and you keep talking about assisted living.

However, she doesn’t want to listen.

She has been adamant about her desire to remain at home. While she seems to be safe enough at the moment, you have been taking more and more time out of your busy schedule to stop over there and assist her with a variety of tasks. You helped her go to the store and do some shopping, you’ve assisted her with the laundry, you’ve helped her get things down from tall cabinets and the closet, and you keep thinking, what would happen if you weren’t able to stop by?

So, you keep bringing up the topic of assisted living.

Every time you do, though, she keeps talking you down. She tells you to knock it off, that she knows what she wants, and she’s never going to consider this option.

It’s important to respect her decision.

This is, ultimately, her decision. As long as she can make a clear and cogent decision and be lucid while doing so, there’s no reason to doubt the veracity of her convictions. She has every right to decide where she lives what type of support she receives.

This may be taking a toll on you, and if that’s the case, you do need to sit down and tell her the challenges you’re facing.

She may not realize just how much effort it requires on your part and how many things you’ve given up to take care of her. If she knew, would she be more inclined to at least consider other options?

Sometimes, it can take a long time for people to realize these benefits.

There are many benefits of assisted living, as you probably know already. However, it can take some people an extremely long time to come to the realization about these benefits. The more closed off a person is to the prospect of assisted living or some other senior care option, the less likely they will actually listen and hear what some of those benefits are.

Over time, though, as your mother faces unique challenges and may feel the impact of isolation and loneliness, she may start to open up to the idea of assisted living.

Mention it from time to time, but don’t push it. When she’s ready she will start to ask questions. Make sure you learn as much as you can about this option so you’re prepared to give her the answers that move closer to making this an important decision for her future.

If you or an aging loved one are considering Assisted Living near Daphne AL, contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017.

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About Cindy Johnson

Ashbury Manor’s Administrator since 2008, Cindy Johnson is a long-time expert in the assisted living field. Prior to her arrival at Ashbury Manor, Cindy managed acquisitions and crisis management for existing and new larger senior care project developments for eleven years. As regional manager for an Oregon-based assisted living management company, Cindy was directly responsible for operations for five 50-65 bed assisted living facilities. As manager during the transition to new ownership, Cindy reorganized internal operations and conducted leadership training for Executive Directors. As a result of her management and expertise, one of the company’s facilities (in Ocala, Florida) received a deficiency-free survey, resulting in the lifting of a moratorium on operation.

A nurse for 36 years, senior care has always been Cindy’s passion. Desiring to work more closely with residents, Cindy became a Category II Administrator in 2005. As Ashbury Manor’s Administrator, Cindy understands the complexities associated with dementia and cognitive impairment and she has fallen in love with seniors with dementia or cognitive impairment and their families.

Cindy is Treasurer of the local “Senior Coalition” chapter. She enjoys mentoring new candidates who want to become administrators.

As a 16-bed facility, with Cindy's training and experience, our residents and their families can be sure Ashbury Manor’s carefully selected staff provides the expertise of a larger facility while maintaining the individualized personal care of a small special needs home.
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